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Sex: The Seven Things You Should Know

Sex: The Seven Things You Should Know

1. Not everybody is having it.

You might think other students are having sex all the time, but that’s not true. On a recent survey by the National College Health Association, almost one-third of college students reported no sexual activity in the previous 12 months.

2. What’s right for everyone else may not be right for you.

Even if everyone were having sex all the time, only you can decide if it’s what you want to do, when you want to do it and with whom.

3. Having sex doesn’t prove anything.

Lots of guys and girls disagree about having sex. Anyone who says “you’d have sex with me if you really loved me,” probably doesn’t really love you. Never let someone pressure you into having sex to prove your feelings are for real.

4. Sex is not just physical.

Having sex can make you feel good, but it can make you feel bad if you do it because you get talked into it, or you want to fit in—or worse still, if you do it with someone who isn’t really into you.

5. There are lots of other ways to satisfy your partner.

Seriously, fooling around or foreplay can be tremendously satisfying if you take the time to find out what your partner likes.

6. Smart sex saves lives.

Short of abstinence, condoms are the only way to protect against STDs—including diseases that will never go away like herpes and HIV/AIDS. So be smart. If you are having sex, always use a condom. (That includes oral sex, by the way.) And girls, if your guy doesn’t have a condom, wait until he does.

7. Birth control is important.

Face it. It wasn’t too long ago that you were a kid yourself. Now, at the point when your independent adult life is just starting, do you really want to have a kid of your own? From over-the-counter choices like condoms and spermicides to doctor prescribed options like the pill, the patch, the ring, the cap, the shot and more, there are lots of ways to prevent pregnancies. Be careful: Some may not be as effective as you think.